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hi, i’m ross’s niece, eva.

i wanted to thank you so much for this beautiful artical.

ross means the world to me and he was my best friend.

i hope you’re doing okay and our family is here for you if you need us. 💚

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I feel the pain of searching for a loved one when the odds are stacked against a positive outcome. His parents having to come to the US to search is a horrible thing for them to expreience. My heart goes out to them.

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Nov 19, 2023Liked by Ioan Grillo

We are loving friends of Ross and immensely appreciate this beautiful piece. We’ve connected with one small circle of friends (friendships begun over 20 years ago in NYC), but would like to find out how we might be in touch with you and others? We aren’t on Facebook.

With full hearts, Rachel and David Scher

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The death of any real journalist is a great tragedy, so I'm hoping he's found. I hadn't made the connection but looked him up to find that I'd watched his director's debut, 'Colony'. I also saw 'The First Wave' and 'The Trade', which I loved, but being more a pleb than a cinephile, I wasn't focusing on his cinematography role. I would love to watch 'Elian' but unfortunately don't have an income to stream it. But I can view his photos online - exceptional black and white, full of emotion. May his insight return to our lives.

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Rest in Peace your friend, Ioan

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Nov 22, 2023Liked by Ioan Grillo

I met Ross just last month, walking home after yoga. We only talked twice, but he left a real impression-something so enthusiastic, full and bright about him.

Sending comfort and strength to his loved ones,

Liesbet

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Sorry for the loss of a friend. #Prayers with Ross 🙏🏼

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I guess you are aware of what I am about to tell you. A headless body which is also missing a limb (I can't remember which was found). Authorities said this is normal to find a body in such a condition. Great white sharks and rocks may be responsible. Tough all around still. I can't compare, although we lost our only son back in 1993 during a heart surgery procedure. That was tough and led to a separation from my wife for a number of years. She was more affected than I was.

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Nov 20, 2023Liked by Ioan Grillo

Rare for a drowned swimmer's body to be found without arms and head. Rarer still for a murder victim who fought back to have no marks on hands. Commonly, executions are pistol shots to the head, if not a bludgeoning. Guess it's a coincidence this NYC movie & photo pro covered drug cartels and anti-war topics. Me wonders what his future projects included, perhaps he had sought funding?

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Nov 20, 2023Liked by Ioan Grillo

Reading here about his life - a person of real engagement with the world, brave, giving insight through his work - it's a shame and a loss, too young. Sorry for his family and the friends.

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Nov 20, 2023Liked by Ioan Grillo

If dont stop the Narco state here in México, it will have streinght and force, enough to invade other places, countrys, is worried at this time

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Listen. If you come this way (Wash DC), feel free to call me. It;s not the Hilton, but next best thing, 571-218-8135. I'm about 20 miles south.

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Ioan-

I am sorry to hear about your friend. I have never experienced this, so I'm at loss for words, although I have experienced other life threatening situations as an Army officer, but none of them resulted with lethal consequences. I hope you have accepted the fact by now, that he's not coming back and live with your best memories of him. Take care my friend, you still have stories to tell.

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Nov 19, 2023Liked by Ioan Grillo

Very said to hear about your missing friend Ioan. It’s one reason why each of has a finite time to create a Legacy. Ross clearly has created a Legacy of Work that will stand the test of time.

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Nov 18, 2023Liked by Ioan Grillo

I know this must be very painful for you. I m so sorry!

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I hoped in the voicemail he would say your name--so I would finally know how to pronounce it correctly.

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